Patti entered into rest on September 8, 2022 after battling lung cancer.
She was born March 12, 1958 to the late Peter and Patricia Trefiletti.
She was a loving wife to Thomas Lively; a devoted mother to Erin (Neil) Gross, Sarah Rodenhofer, and Christopher Lively. She was an adoring grandmother to Taylor, Keiyra, Layne, and Cloey.
She is survived by her sisters, Ann (Gary) Charboneau, Mary (Mark) Camp.
She loved life and was a second mom to all of her children’s friends. She was an animal lover of all kinds. She was a kind, loving person who made a lasting impression on all she met.
Is it bad I knew this amazing women for years and didn’t know her first name?? I knew her as momma… She was always so sweet and kind to me and my kids. I see so much of Erin and Sarah when I look at her. She will definitely be missed….love and prayers to the whole family, but they are blessed to have such a great angel watching over them.
Patti was always a part of the Rodenhofer family and we loved her, she was a wonderful Mother, we will miss her, now that she has gained her Angel Wings I know she will be watching over both of you and her grandchildren. Erin and Sarah please know that we are here for you always. Sending my prayers and love to both of you.
Girls I am so extremely sorry and heartbroken for your loss! Your Mom was absolutely one of a kind and was loved beyond measure!! I love you ❤️
We are sorry for loss. Patty was always so kind. We always love talking about our grandkids together. She always had a smile for everyone. Patty you will be missed ❤️
patti was my cousins grandma not mine biological cause my cousins grandpa was my blood patti was not but every time i was around her she treated me like nothing but her own blood and own granddaughter! i am heart broken over her death and heat broken for my cousins! i know she has the most beautiful angle wings!
Erin was the first person I met when I moved to High Ridge in the 90s and she is the sister I never had. Of course when I got a new sister I also got a 2nd mom and Patti was the best. I could stop by and hang out anytime even when Erin wasn’t home. I could sit for hours and hang out with mom and Tom. Patti treated everyone the as though they were her own children. She got me out of trouble more than a few times when I would do dumb teenager stuff. I haven’t got to see her much since we all grew up but I have thought of her often and will miss her very much but I have the memories and they will last a lifetime. Rest in piece Momma. Tell my grandma and parents I said hello and I will see you all again someday. I love you and will miss you.
Tom, Erin, Sarah, and Chris…I am sorry for your loss. Patti was always a very caring person. No matter what was going on, if someone needed something Patti was the first one to offer help. When we were in our teenage years we would all pile in the house and just hang out and chill. If you were at Patti’s house well then you were home. She always fed us, kept us out of trouble but most importantly she taught us how to treat other people with respect. It’s a sad day for sure. But have comfort and hope because just like moms do, she had to get up to heaven and take care of some people there she hasn’t seen for some time. Life is fragile and life is short. But always remember that love is Everlasting and knows no boundaries. We will meet again. We will have Everlasting life. Love you Patti.
Patti’s unconditional love and kindness was so great it extended through her family. Her love existed for all creations of God from kitten to giant Australian blue tounge Skink .For this she was known by many, including myself, as momma. Her voice spoke of sincerity quieting the chaos of life.To have her as a family member must be treasured. She lived very proud of hers and safe among you.
May your hearts treasure her memories and mimic the love she bestowed so that her essence will live on through you.
Sincerely,Brian
I worked with Patti for 26 years and always had a great co-worker friend relationship. She was a sweetheart who would be there for anyone. I was so sad to hear that she had passed at such a young age. RIP Patti. Prayers and sympathy to all her family.
Wow what memories I have of Patti! Mueser’s, Partners, Wilderness Ridge (where we all became invisible), Bull Shoals (where we couldn’t catch a cold because of Yukon Jack), Lake of Egypt (where she told me she was pregnant with her 1st child), Grand Avenue (where she asked a man who was lying on the sidewalk a question that “will live in infamy”)! She was truly a beautiful loving mother and friend. God’s the lucky one, he has her! Loving and missing my friend of 42 years.
I met Patti when I moved to her block in 1970. We were both teenagers, the same age, and we got along great. She and her sister Ann became very close friends of my family through our formative years until I moved away in 1976. We spent many nights at the lake in Desoto, Mo. where we made a lot more friends. Amazing summers we spent there. I will never forget all the times we just spent talking on the steps in front of her house, or just listening to music in their living room. She was a great athlete, and could outrun any guy around, and probably out wrestle them as well. She was always so kind to everyone of us, even at such a young age. It doesn’t surprise me to learn that she earned the nickname “Momma”. The last time I talked to her we discussed the things that made us happy, our families, grandkids, etc. and the fact that we both had been on our jobs for a super long time. We had both battled cancer, as well as her sister Ann, and were sure we were all going to come out on top. I hope you and Ann are together in heaven, and if you see Don and my brother Matt, tell them I said hi. I’ll miss you.